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The fear of failure, defeat and ridicule are the main factors which prevent us from establishing contact with people, to whom we really care about. So would not it be appropriate to get rid of these criminals once and for all? Unfortunately we can not get rid of them ..... because they do not exist. If you believe in the existence of failures that have been programmed by the school, friends and society to look at life in a restrictive manner. Artificial Założyłeś a filter for the eyes, which you extremely limited. In fact, there is no failure, but only the results of your actions, the so-called feedback. Suppose you want to make an appointment with a girl X, but she refuses those dates. What society programmed us to this fact? A sense of defeat, disappointment and defeat. Is it, however, really? Is this information gives us the girl refused, or is this our nadinterpretacja resulting from social conditioning? Do you remember the best strategy for success? Refusal, if we treat it in a reasonable manner, puts us in the third point of our strategy - communicate that what we do not give us the desired results, so you need to show flexibility and take a new, more effective action. What this means in practice for effective podrywacze applying our strategy? There are two exits from the situation: either to find another, better way to persuade the girl to the meeting or arrange with another girl. However, most people alienate one, two or ten attempts. Why is this happening? ARTIFICIALLY because we were conditioned to see in the behavior of other people\'s things that are not there. (more about over-interpretation in Chapter murderers of Excellence). Did you think why I use the term \"artificially conditioned. Because once, when you were a small child and had a mind free from restrictions that would later your head wtłoczyli adults do not know feelings of failure. That\'s not to say that sometimes felt frustration or anger that you\'re not leaving, but I am one hundred percent convinced that as a small child never felt lost, not when things were going your way. Do you remember how learned to walk? Did you tried one, two, or hundreds of times? What would happen if you were learning to walk any tipping interpreted as a personal defeat, and like most adults attach to it a pile of unpleasant feelings? It is likely that today there umiałbyś walk.
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